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Updating the Memory Box

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I have about a week more to go before dragging myself back to work. I’m enjoying my summer vacation too much I  wonder if I could ever get the strength to wake up early again.

While on this long summer break, my diet seems to be in a bit of a vacation too. Yes, diet just went out the window  this entire break. I’ve been feeling kinda sluggish and thought I was pregnant. We’ve been trying and really praying for another baby…probably in God’s own time it will happen.

Not to feel too depressed about the whole thing, I took out my little girl’s memory box. It was actually the husband who insisted that we create a Memory Box for our five-year old.

When the husband was still trying to pursue me, he showed me an old heavy box full of stuff from his childhood. He even  had his school ID in kindergarten! He had pictures of his 4-year-old self making silly faces, an article from the newspaper with his picture and name on it as a contestant in a Spelling Bee Competition..precious, precious memories to last him a lifetime.

Looking at him with his memory box and smiling from ear-to-ear, I said to my single-ready-to-get-married self that I was going to marry this man with the memory box! Tee! Hee! He had me at ‘memory box’.

Please do’nt stop reading, I know it’s too cheesy and too over-the-top but I will stop getting too melodramatic. Trust me, it’ll get better in the next sentences.

Fast forward today, our little lady has her memory box too. We had actually changed it to a bigger and more sturdy box. We’ve kept her kindergarten class picture, her first school ID (too cute!) her pretty onesies when she was just 3 months old… Ah, so many keepsakes that bring smiles to our faces.

Memories to last us a lifetime.

Do you keep a Memory Box?

No Clash of Tongues

To speak or not to speak the first language?

“Proficiency in the first language determines or influences one’s capacity to acquire another language.”

I’m on Yahoo News Philippines today. I was interviewed by a journalist and asked about my opinion on using our first language as a medium of instruction in school. For those of you from other countries who have no issues on using your first language in school, this might sound foreign to you. Here in my beloved Philippines, we have hundreds and thousands of languages because we are an archipelago (group of islands) in South East Asia.  But we use English as our medium of instruction in school. Heck, we are more comfortable speaking English than our national language, Filipino.

Early last year, the Department of Education has mandated to use the mother tongue (Cebuano for us here in Cebu) as a medium of instruction in schools. Some say that the promotion of Cebuano/first language may interfere with the mastery of English.

Please click the link here or read below. The Erojo mentioned is me :) I’ve underlined them and the last paragraph were my answers. Let me know your thoughts. I’d like to emphasize however, that this is my opinion and that in no way am I imposing such stand to any person or organization. Violent reactions are most welcome.

For Japanese student Keiko Abe, Cebuanos’ ease with English in and outside classrooms is a reason she is studying in Cebu City.

And the University of the Philippines Cebu junior, who chose to move from Manila to Cebu three years ago, enjoys this bonus: “Cebu can offer better service (at a) lower price,” training foreigners like her on English as a second language (ESL).

Yet in this Central Visayas province where education tourism is helping drive the economy, English is not the only language getting attention from Cebuanos.

Cebuano, the mother tongue, is at the center of an impassioned drive to preserve and promote local heritage.

Under the K to 12 Basic Education Program launched this schoolyear by the Department of Education, Cebuano is one of 12 mother tongue languages introduced to the curriculum to facilitate learning at the primary level.

This early, critics fear that learning the mother tongue alongside Filipino and English will overburden first-graders.

The promotion of Cebuano also worries Abe who fears it may interfere with Cebuanos’ mastery of English. “The Philippines is an English-speaking country, but it doesn’t mean that everyone possesses the skill to speak fluently like native speakers,” she said.

It’s not a perception shared by educators and language experts.

“Proficiency in the first language determines or influences one’s capacity to acquire another language,” said Marryl Giela Erojo, a Maryland-certified special educator who teaches Early Childhood Education at Sacred Heart School-Ateneo de Cebu.

She points to countries with the “best educational system,” like Norway, Finland and Japan, that use their first language as medium of instruction.

“Most Filipinos have a good command of the English language, not because we speak it often but because we were taught well,” she said.

Erojo said the exodus of teachers for overseas jobs is the real challenge for Filipinos. Teachers also now need to develop appropriate materials to teach in the mother tongue.

Despite finding it “a bit challenging” to use Cebuano as medium of instruction with students of different ethnicities, many of whom either fluently speak English or desire to be more proficient, Erojo favors the K to 12 promotion of the mother tongue as foundation for learning in Filipino and English.

“We have for the longest time insisted on English as our medium of instruction yet we seem to have brushed off the fact that we are all estranged from our Filipino heritage as a result of that,” she said. “It’s alarming that only a few seem to see that problem. We seem to be trying so hard to sound American, think American and look American. Clearly, the Filipino is slowly losing his identity.”

Jesus B. Garcia Jr. remembers learning English in school “at the expense of the Cebuano language.” Students were penalized then for speaking Cebuano within the school premises, said the chairman of the board of Sun.Star Publishing Inc., which produces Sun.Star Cebu, an English daily; Sun.Star Superbalita, a Cebuano daily; and Bisdak Magasin, a Cebuano weekly magazine.

“The Cebuano language, it seemed, was a second-class language that had to be rapidly replaced with English if one is to be considered cultured or educated,” he said.

To get past this bias, Garcia translated into Cebuano Kahlil Gibran’s The Prophet and self-published Ang Propeta in 2009.

That same year, Akademiyang Bisaya (The Visayan Academy of Arts and Letters Foundation Inc.), of which Garcia is a member, published the first edition of The English-Visayan-Cebuano Dictionary.

The project took 10 years to complete as different organizations were consulted to standardize Cebuano orthography, grammar and syntax.

The sustained promotion of Cebuano, however, is not supposed to eclipse Cebuanos’ mastery of English.

“Akademiyang Bisaya’s promotion of the Cebuano-Visayan language is not anchored on the government’s K to12 policy but on DECS Department Order No. 74, which mandates the use of one’s first language—the language of one’s family and community—to learn Filipino and English,” said Garcia. “This mandate implements the findings of Unesco…that proficiency in second and third languages can be acquired more effectively if one starts with one’s native language.”

UP Cebu senior Charisse Ursal supports Akademiya’s promotion of Cebuano but believes many Cebuanos will choose to hone their English skills as it will be more profitable for them. Ursal said it is her command of English that has enabled her to earn even before graduation, as a correspondent of the Philippine Daily Inquirer.

LlorenEnglish language trainer Gregg Lloren sees proficiency in English as a ticket for Filipinos to escape drudgery. Of all the clients he has trained to pass English proficiency tests, he found the most fulfillment helping butchers, who sometimes went to class with bloodied shirts, apply for an Australian working visa.

Like Erojo and Garcia, poet and writer Gémino H. Abad sees no clash between English and Cebuano.

Initiatives promoting local heritage, especially the mother tongue, were not diluting but even empowering Cebuanos’ mastery of English, said the UP Diliman University professor of English and Comparative Literature who lived in Cebu until he was 10.

“The more languages I have, the better for me as a writer,” Abad said. “You lose a language, you lose a way of perception.”

He added that the country’s rich body of works in Spanish, English and indigenous languages other than Filipino argued for sensitivity and diplomacy in promoting languages to avoid “linguistic imperialism.”

Observing how her daughter Bea, at five, speaks better English while also learning to express in Cebuano, Erojo believed that, linguistically, one can have the best of all worlds through education. “I find it an insult to my being a Filipino if I am unable to speak, write and understand my first language. As a Filipino mother, it is my role to teach her that.”

Our Family’s Gratitude Jar

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I saw a tweet last month about this ‘gratitude jar’ where you start the year with an empty jar and you fill it with notes of wonderful things that has happened all through out the year. Things that you are thankful for so that by the end of the year, you will have filled the jar. Read it on Christmas or New Year’s Eve and it will remind you of the many things you’re grateful for. It’s like counting your blessings, not the misfortunes. It’s our family’s gratitude jar that means the three of us can write down something wonderful that happened and we place it in the jar.

It’s a reminder for the three of us to live our life with love, joy, passion and purpose. That life is not about living for others or what they will have to say. However, it also is about going beyond selfish desires and becoming an inspiration to live a purposeful life. Our little princess goes to a Jesuit school and as young as five, they are taught the latin motto Ad Majoren Dei Gloriam and Magis. That in everything you do, strive for excellence by doing more to become MORE. Such big words really but that’s what everything boils down to, I guess.

If you’re wondering what are some of the things we wrote down, here are some:

1. Mommy – Today we had lunch with the the family and  with Papa. (My Dad is home from the US for a Christmas vacation and that day we had lunch buffet with one of my brothers and my 60 year old father, most of my cousins, uncles and aunts. The rest of my family are in the US. SO it was a good day!)

2. Daddy – I got the highest score for the Premidterm exams in Obligations and Contracts. (The husaband  is in law school)

3. Bea – I got excellent grades. ( My daughter’s report card showed excellent grades and we’re proud of her!)

Those are samples of what we write down and drop in the jar. As for our five-year-old daughter, she’s at the right age where she is learning to write beautifully, but she has to ask the spelling for most words.

I purposely placed it in our craft / study room because it’s like our second family room. We gather in that tiny room most days. Our little princess is always in that room getting our stuff especially papers. My hubby studies there everyday. I have my treasures there (no not my jewelries) – my jewelry-making tools, felt fabrics, other fabrics and my bead stash that has a life of their own now (wink! wink!).

What are you thankful for?

How young should you start teaching your child about money matters?

That’s my four-year-old Bea, all smiles. Yesterday was the day to break open her coin bank which she had diligently filled to the top. She had started saving when she was just three and a half. It started with a gift from a relative and we told her to save the money and save up some more so she can afford to buy what she likes. She finds coins everywhere and puts it in her coin bank, haha!

Now that I’m back in Cebu, I try to bring her along wherever I go. The nanny tags along sometimes because she could be all over the place especially when she was younger. When we go to the malls, and buy something, I would let her pay to the counter. Sometimes the lady at the counter would be amused to see a little girl paying. She always enjoyed doing that. Whenever I’d go to the bank, she always has this curious look on her face when  I get to the teller and a lady hands me money.  She would see me counting money or when I do deposits, she would look at me and ask why I would give money to the bank. I know she was too young then but I always tell her why I do deposits or withdrawals, etc. You know how children are and all their questions. They won’t stop until you give them an answer.

One time, I was doing the household budget and I must’ve said something because she just blurted out, “just get money from the bank, Mommy”. She’s just hilarious!

As early as three years old, we had introduced the concept of saving and money. Why bother? because I feel the need to teach her. I see kids in the toy store throwing tantrums because they won’t leave the store unless they get the toy they want. That scared me! Whenever we go to the malls and she sees something she likes, we always ask her if she really likes it, if she can afford it . The phrase “can you afford it” is very powerful because it allows the child to think rather than saying, “we don’t have the money”. I want her to understand that and hope will prompt her to save up, work for it and patiently wait. Of course we do spoil her at times. After all, she’s our only little girl. But at least she’s beginning to understand now why daddy works at the office. Sometimes, she just tells us to stay at home and play with her. Aaaww :)

On to her little adventure yesterday.

We counted all her coins which totalled P630.00!  Now that’s a lot of money for my four-year old! I explained to her that the coins are too heavy and so we had the nanny bring all the coins to a nearby gasoline station and they gladly exchanged it to bills. We went to Ayala Center and you could see that she was just as excited as we were.

She went thru all the toys she liked, wallet in hand. I liked the strawberry shortcake or the pretty Barbie dolls but my husband said to just let her choose whatever she likes. I had to get hold of myself and contain my excitement.

She has finally found the toy she wants and went to the counter to pay.

The toy cost her P649.00. She had P630.00 only so daddy put in P19.00. Not bad at all. I was just so proud of my baby!

I don’t know what she asked the lady but I was just there taking pictures and I know my husband shared my excitement too.

Sorry but because I was giggling too much, I took this blurry photo. But this was after she paid for her toy. I think she had a really good time yesterday but I think the mommy and daddy were more excited. Ecstatic is more like it.

What about you guys? DO you teach your children about money and saving? How do you do it?

Felt Cupcake Hair Clip Tutorial

I have a love affair with FELT. Felt hair clips, felt food, felt toys – everything made of felt. I used to make baby hair clips for my daughter when she was months old. However, It’s been almost five years since I’ve created something.Wow, that long!

Yesterday, I finally took out my stash of felt and thought I’d make my daughter that cupcake hair clip I used to make. It’s so easy.

You will need:

  • Felt Fabric
  • Needle and thread
  • snap clip

Cut out some felt according to your desired size. The cupcake is about 3/4 inch.

Using a running stitch, put together the cupcake. Stitch the bottom part later to attach to the top cover of the snap clip.

Cut two pieces of felt to cover the snap clip. I add a few centimeters of felt for allowance so I could make running stitches all around to hold the two matching felt together.

For the bottom felt, mark as shown below.

Make a tiny slit in between the marks. Open the clip and slip through the slit.

To put the two matching felts together, use running stitch all around. A blanket stitch would also give it a nice look. I’m using running stitch to the cupcake and the snap clip cover.

There’s the cute cupcake hair clip on my daughter :)